Free beta live in California
Dating without the part you hate.
Writing about yourself is work. Sorting hundreds of matches is work. We take that off your plate, so you show up once, as yourself, to someone who already fits.
Free beta · Voice only · No camera, no performance
Why it's broken
Apps were optimised for swiping. Not for you.
The numbers behind the tiredness. Each hexagon is one finding from Pew Research Center's national survey of U.S. adults.
- 0% of women under 50 who used a dating app got sexually explicit messages they never asked for
- 0% kept being contacted after saying they weren't interested
- 0% of women felt overwhelmed by the volume of messages. 64% of men felt insecure from the lack of them.
Go deeper: the data
| Finding | Share |
|---|---|
| Women under 50 who received unwanted sexually explicit messages or images | 56% |
| Women under 50 contacted again after saying they weren't interested | 43% |
| Women under 50 called an offensive name | 37% |
| Women under 50 threatened with physical harm | 11% |
| Users who encountered someone they believed was a scammer | 52% |
| Women reporting a positive overall experience (men: 57%) | 48% |
| Women who felt overwhelmed by the number of messages | 54% |
| Partnered adults who met their partner through a dating site or app | 1 in 10 |
| Americans who say online dating is very or somewhat safe | 48% |
Source: Pew Research Center, "Key findings about online dating in the U.S." (2023).
Ten conversations. Zero profiles to write.
Sessions
- Basic done
- Character Traits 6 / 20 min
- Sex & Intimacy
- Your Past
- Your Future
- Lifestyle Preferences
- Your Ideal Partner
- Romantic Expectations
- Adventure & Travel
- Finances & Money
Then
- Your report
- Introductions
How it works.
You talk with kAI in short voice sessions. kAI builds your profile and introduces you to up to three people at a time. The beta is free and starts in California.
See every feature →Step 1
Intake
Start talking with kAI, the AI matchmaker, in 10 short voice sessions that cover everything from your basics and your past to what you want in a partner. You go at your own pace, and you can pause any time.
What actually makes you feel loved? Not what you give. What lands.
When someone remembers the small things I mentioned. Big gestures make me cringe a little.
Go deeper: how a session works
Ten short voice sessions
Each session is a focused conversation with kAI, from the basics to relationship history and what you want in a partner. The more sessions you complete, the better kAI understands you. You set the pace.
A profile that writes itself
kAI turns what you shared into a written summary, personality tags and three AI-generated avatars per session. Your look is set in the first session; later sets place you in scenes drawn from what you talked about.
What kAI does not do
kAI never asks you to rate your looks, pick a best photo, or reduce yourself to a checkbox like "rock or rap?" Grey areas are welcome. You are a complex human; the picture should be too.
Written summary
Personality tags
New avatars after each session
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Step 2
Analysis
kAI turns your answers into a character profile: a written summary, personality tags and new avatars after each session. You do not write a bio or pick photos.
Step 3
Matches
kAI proposes up to three matches at a time and explains why each one fits. If you are interested, kAI asks the other person. You become a match only when both of you agree.
Step 4
Chat
Get to know your matches through unlimited video and audio calls in the app, plus text, voice notes and photos. Nobody needs your phone number.
The things apps get wrong. Fixed one by one.
Every complaint here is one we heard in our own interviews. Each one has a specific answer in how InTimid works.
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Matches that are not serious
You see up to three matches at a time, each one approved and explained. No pile to sort.
- 02
Ghosting
You become a match only when both of you agree. Nobody is left waiting on a message that never comes.
- 03
Stressful bios and first messages
kAI writes your profile from your conversations, so there is no bio to polish and no opener to agonize over.
- 04
Asked for your number too early
Voice and video calls happen inside the app, so you never need to hand over a phone number.
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Rigid questionnaires
A real conversation that follows what you say, and asks for more detail when you want to give it.
- 06
Catfish
Every member verifies with a government ID and a selfie before matching.
What dating apps felt like.
From our 2024 user interviews
Sometimes you would match with someone and then nothing really initiated. Just a bunch of profiles there with no sort of engagement.
Allison A., 24 (F)
Santa AnaSomebody else do the hard work.
Anthony P., 37 (M)
Beverly HillsRight now on Hinge I have 99+ matches. Bumble is over a thousand. Going through all these just takes forever.
Suzie G., 34 (F)
SeattleThey unmatch and you feel like total shit.
Cassie C., 37 (F)
San Francisco
What talking to kAI feels like.
From our 2026 beta, after real kAI sessions
When your AI went into review what I had said I was stunned by how clearly it understood what I was saying.
Nathan, 31 (M)
Southern California, beta userIt is so much better than filling out all that stuff in a dating app.
Tracey, 52 (F)
Las Vegas, beta userIt felt great. Great summarization. Great catching of the nuances. I felt understood.
Darin Bennett, LMFT
InTimid clinical advisorThe questions were absolutely refreshing and the ability to be so open and detailed about my past, wants, needs, desires, realistic expectations, etc.
Nathan, 31 (M)
Southern California, beta userIt was pretty natural, felt like I was talking to a friend I just met.
Tracey, 52 (F)
Las Vegas, beta userYou're really able to catch the nuances of emotional grayness.
Darin Bennett, LMFT
InTimid clinical advisorThe first time I've used an AI where I genuinely feel like I'm being listened to instead of just being translated through a language model.
Nathan, 31 (M)
Southern California, beta user
How kAI understands you
Compatibility has more dimensions than a profile can show.
Most apps match on sameness: same hobbies, same vibe, same height filter. Lasting fit is about how two people work together. Across ten short voice sessions kAI asks hundreds of questions and builds a profile with hundreds of dimensions a bio never reaches.
- What you value most, from security and tradition to freedom, adventure and caring for others.
- How you think: your appetite for certainty, curiosity, analysis and structure.
- How you bond: how much reassurance you need, how much space, how you handle conflict and make up.
- What your past relationships show you actually need, not just what you say you want.
Your introduction
Approved by a person. Both members consent before contact.
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Someone who already fits
Approved by a person today
- Matched on values, pace of life and social energy
- Identity verified
- Avatars instead of profile photos
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Nobody can message first
Both of you agree before contact opens.
- You agreed Today
- They agreed Today
- Messaging and in-app calls are open
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Every member is a verified person
Completed before matching begins.
- Identity check complete
- Government ID and selfie check through Persona
- No bots. No blurred likes.
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Go deeper: what kAI listens for
Who you are
What you value. Not a checklist of interests, but the deeper priorities that shape how you live and what you would never trade away.
How you think. Whether you reach for certainty or stay curious, how you weigh a decision, how much structure you like around you.
A good day stays a good day. How you felt on the day of a call is noted as that day's mood, never mistaken for who you are.
How you love
How you bond. How much reassurance you need, how much room, how you handle a hard conversation and how you come back from one.
What actually works for you. The rhythm of contact, how you recharge, how you like to be shown love and how you show it.
The shape of a shared life. Timelines, habits, home and money, and the few things that are truly non-negotiable for you.
Built gradually. Each session adds to the picture rather than redrawing it. The rest of the method is ours to keep; the result is yours to read.
Built for the people apps weren't built for.
Many people have good luck with apps. This is for everyone who decided the work wasn't worth it.
- 01
For introverts
You don't hate dating. You hate dating apps.
- No profile to write
- No swiping
- No ghosting
- 02
For starting over
Dating again after a divorce or loss should not mean learning to swipe.
- A matchmaker does the hard part
- 03
For single parents
Less time. Less patience for the grind.
- Ten conversations, on your schedule
- Pause anytime
- 04
For anyone worn out
Someone else does the hard part.
- Verified people
- Up to three introductions at a time
Verified, on purpose.
Paying to see who liked you and finding a bot is the most common complaint about dating apps. Every InTimid member completes identity verification before matching. Fewer people, all here for a reason.
Identity checks by 
, the industry-standard verification service trusted by LinkedIn and OpenAI.
- 01
Identity verified
A government ID and selfie check through Persona. No bots. No blurred likes.
- 02
In-app calls
Voice and video happen inside the app.
- 03
Mutual consent
Nobody can message until both agree.
Simple pricing
A matchmaker without the matchmaker's price tag. You pay when you approve an introduction. Monthly plans are there if you want more choice.
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Pay per match
For people who want one good introduction at a time.
$49.99one-time sign-up
✓ Your first match is included
Then $249 for each additional match
- Ten sessions with kAI
- AI-generated compatibility report
- No commitment
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Starter
For people who want more choice.
$499/ month
Save 33% over paying per match
- Everything in pay per match
- Custom avatars, three per session
- Up to three match proposals a month
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Unlimited
For people who want the widest search.
$999/ month
- Everything in Starter
- Unlimited match proposals
The beta is free: no signup fee, no per-match charge, no card required. Prices apply after the beta.
Team
Built by people who were done with dating apps too.
Andy Da Costa
Co-founder & CEO
Two decades of visual effects on films from Harry Potter to Pirates of the Caribbean. Introvert, and a former frustrated matchmaking client. Started InTimid after his own run of dating-app fatigue.
Chris Reid
Co-founder & CTO
Extrovert. 25+ years architecting software. 8+ years building AI. Creator of the relationship engine behind kAI. Turning "that’s impossible" into shipped reality.
Darin Bennett, LMFT
Clinical Advisor
Licensed marriage and family therapist. Keeps the matching model honest about how real relationships work.
Grant Langston
Go-to-market Advisor
Former eHarmony CEO from 2016 to 2020. He has probably matched more people than anybody on earth.
kAI
Matchmaker
Listens, learns, and introduces. Never tired, never judging, never selling you a boost. Respects your privacy.
Go deeper: why we exist
We believe modern dating feels like a digital nightclub: loud, overcrowded, full of games, and focused only on how people look. We are matchmakers, not a dating app. Unlike apps that want to keep you on the platform, we want to see you log off with the love of your life.
InTimid is for introverts, for people newly single, and for people re-entering after time away. It is all-inclusive and judgment-free, and it is designed so that the quiet, thoughtful people who hate performing on apps are finally the ones who get seen.
Be You. Be Loved.
Whether you're an introvert, newly single, or coming back after time away. Join the free beta in California and have your first conversation with kAI.
Join the free betaQuestions? support@intimid.net